For those unfamiliar with the subject, dating is a relatively simple procedure that must always be hopelessly complicated for any Christian daring to try it out.
If you’re feeling lucky, try Googling “christian dating advice.” We’ll see you next week…But wait!
Rather than assuming or expecting a deeper relationship right away, we need to learn to value people first and foremost for who they are and for the genuine fellowship they can provide without any extra strings attached.
Only once we’ve done that will we be prepared for a solid, healthy relationship when and if the right one does come along.
Valuing Unintentional Dating I’m as guilty of this wrong mindset as anyone is, but I’ve begun trying to change.
In my somewhat sheltered upbringing from church youth group, I was taught to date intentionally, with the goal of marriage in mind, and to date only one person at a time.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with dating and meeting new people.I’d be lying if I said the thought of dating her never occurred to me at all; again, society pressures us to be always on the lookout, and my analytical mind can’t ignore the possibilities.Still, I didn’t make it my immediate goal to get close to her for the purpose of dating her.” But I’ve learned that there’s a big difference between actual formal dates, which have a clear romantic connotation, and “coffee dates,” which are just to hang out and get to know people and have a good time.Starting out with a few “coffee dates” rather than a formal date can help to relieve a lot of premature pressure on the relationship.In fact, spending time with people and getting to know them is completely good and healthy.